Over 30 years ago, Monica Lewinsky, a 22-year-old White House intern, became the focus of a national scandal that captivated and dominated the media. Her name was dragged through relentless public scrutiny, often becoming the butt of jokes and harsh criticism. At the time, she had very little control over her own story.

Now, at 51, Lewinsky is reclaiming her narrative. She has shifted from being seen as a symbol of scandal to embracing her role as a survivor who speaks openly about her experience on her own terms. This transformation reflects both personal growth and changing societal perspectives.

When news of her relationship with President Bill Clinton broke in 1998, the media’s response was overwhelmingly negative. Instead of addressing the clear power imbalance, Lewinsky was judged mainly on her appearance and motives. She has since described the situation as an “abuse of power,” rather than a mere youthful romance, highlighting how few acknowledged the true nature of their dynamic at the time.

She was branded with cruel labels such as “bimbo” and “home-wrecker,” which led to severe social and professional fallout. Meanwhile, Clinton’s career continued largely unscathed. The smear campaign left Lewinsky isolated and struggling to find stable work for years, an ordeal she did not expect to endure so long.

Lewinsky has referred to herself as “patient zero” of online shaming, recalling how the personal attacks and public humiliation deeply affected her mental health. Despite these challenges, she turned her pain into purpose.

Today, Lewinsky is an outspoken advocate against cyberbullying. Through TED Talks and writing, she discusses shame, resilience, and healing, fully embracing her story, including its scars, as part of who she is.

Her journey reminds us that behind every public scandal is a real person. Lewinsky calls on society to move beyond judgment and toward empathy, questioning whether we have truly evolved or simply shifted cruelty to digital platforms.