When a loved one passes, we’re often left not only with grief but with their belongings—clothing, jewelry, mirrors, and more. These objects, though ordinary, can stir deep emotions. Across many cultures, there’s a belief that such items retain more than memories—they can carry energy. Even for those who aren’t spiritual, a certain item may bring unease, as if it holds onto the presence of the departed. This raises a difficult but necessary question: Should we keep everything, or can letting go be a form of healing?
One of the most sensitive categories of inherited items is intimate clothing, such as undergarments. These garments, worn close to the body, are believed by some traditions to absorb stress and energy over time. Holding onto them can subtly affect emotional balance in a home. If these items stir discomfort, consider respectfully discarding or donating them, acknowledging their connection but also allowing yourself space to move forward.
Mirrors are another item often tied to spiritual energy. Used daily and often kept near emotionally charged spaces like bedrooms, mirrors may feel unsettling after a loved one’s death. Some believe mirrors hold echoes of the emotions once reflected in them. If a particular mirror causes unease, try covering it or relocating it. Trust your instincts—comfort should always come first in your healing space.
Jewelry, especially pieces worn during difficult times, can also carry emotional weight. While a necklace or ring may symbolize love, it can also quietly anchor you to unresolved grief. Instead of storing it out of obligation, consider redesigning it, passing it on to someone who will wear it with joy, or respectfully letting it go. True love isn’t in the metal—it’s in your heart.
Finally, religious items like rosaries or prayer books can become difficult to hold onto if your beliefs have shifted or if the memories tied to them bring sorrow. Donating them or setting them aside may be the healthiest choice. Letting go isn’t forgetting—it’s making room for peace. You’re not discarding the person; you’re choosing to live, heal, and carry their love forward in a way that brings you strength.
